The Art of Marriage
Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.
A good marriage must be created.
In the art of marriage the little things are the big things…It is never being too old to hold hands.It is remembering to say “I love you” at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end with the honeymoon,
it should continue through all the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude
of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.It is speaking words of appreciation
and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience,
understanding and a sense of humour.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is finding room for the things of the spirit.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal,
dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.
It is discovering what marriage can be, at its best.
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Double sighs.
What are your thoughts?
Not sure I agree with what is in red.
Why you ask? Because I think that harsh and hurting words can be said in anger. Words that can not be taken back.
Sometimes I think, it is better to sleep on it and wake up and continue ………. :-).
February 4, 2013 at 11:06 am
Nice. As for the words in red. I kind of agree as I am the kind of person who likes sorting issues there and then, and unfortunately I do end up saying or doing things I will regret later
February 4, 2013 at 3:55 pm
I think you can take however long before resolving a dispute….as long as you are not mean to your partner or giving them the silent treatment in the mean time. And as long as you resolve it instead of tucking it away and then stuff just piles up.
‘ It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal. It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.’ How deep!
February 5, 2013 at 9:14 am
Wow Gerbera!I like your last sentence…..deep indeed!!I agree,sometimes it’s not easy to go to bed all smiles and sometimes when you’re hurting it’s easy to say really hurtful things!Tis only by God’s grace!!
February 5, 2013 at 9:39 am
That last sentence is in the poem
LOL!
February 5, 2013 at 9:42 am
Oooh ooops!!LOL!!kumbe I didn’t read it to the end