Doing Life By His Side

Living our best life



The last post on this blog was on 6th July 2015. And even before that, I was erratic in my blogging.

Nothing irks me more than following a blogger who is not consistent.

Especially when they initially used to blog so often.

I have become irksome I know and I feel that perhaps it is time, after ten years of blogging to let blogging go.

I don’t feel any which way about this decision because the blog will still be here if I decide to come back to it but for now, I think it is safe to say I cannot do this.

I will also be deleting the Facebook page. I already deleted the Instagram page.

If you need something from me, my email remains or you can follow me on twitter @CiikuMrsBabes

Thank you for your many years of reading.


On Friendship

The beauty of being older and awake and more introspective and also having taken the time to LEARN myself is that I know what it means to be a friend.

And to have a friend.

I am big on friendship

Because let me tell you something:

  • If a friendship is not reciprocated, it is not friendship
  • If a friendship is not honest, it is not friendship
  • A friendship is not about competition, who has the best car, the best house, the best life etc
  • If you are not coming through for your friend… you suck.
  • If you are always reaching out and never in reverse, this not friendship.

Let me tell you something, we are all born selfish. And some people never outgrow it. It is not my portion to be in life to be a selfless friend to be stepped on. I left that nonsense in my youth. Nope.

And let me tell you something….. I am NOT here for you to tell me that I should take people the way they are meaning I should suffer their foolishness.

Yes, I take people the way they are.

And if you are a terrible person, I mean………

Why should I suffer?


Have a lovely week.

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On Looks

You have got to give it to men though.

The confidence within which they commment about women’s looks is outstanding…. while they themselves are really not much to look at!

Have you noticed it?

Take time to see how looks and conversations are dealt with.

Let me give you an example:

  • Have you ever rejected a man’s advances and the first thing he tells you is “You aren’t that pretty even” or something of the sort?

I remember once back in my old blog I wrote a post that some guys didn’t take very well and one of the comments I got was “You need to lose 20 kilos”. Since at this point I was quite anonymous, I realised that the person who left that comment was someone who knew me in real life.

Anyway, first of all, I am always amazed how people think that their opinions of you should matter in how your live your life.

Secondly, I am not here for you talking shit about how a woman looks AND MORE SO if you look like something I stepped on.

Thirdly, read this and let me know thoughts

And finally to save you saying it in the comments #NotAllMen

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Random Fridays


  • Links
    • Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie: Being a strong woman isn’t remarkable, it’s normal. Here
    • When Online Friendships Are More Honest Than Offline Ones. Here
    • What makes a woman? Here
    • Caitlyn Jenner Isn’t Fodder for Your Academic Feminist Squabble. Here
    • What Makes a Woman Is Less Important Than What Makes a Feminist. Here
  • Of course I expected think pieces about Caitlyn Jenner.
  • And I have not been disappointed.
  • It is so interesting to read different view points about one thing.
  • It truly is.
  • And as much as social media  has made it seem… you really do not know.
  • And more importantly, OPINIONS CAN BE WRONG!
  • Sticking to “it’s my opinion” is the laziest and most ignorant thing a human can say while refusing to see that they can indeed be wrong.
  • I hope I never get to the point where I believe my opinion is a fact.
  • Unlearn and Learn people. We all have access to the same Google.
  • And lastly, if you do not click any of the links… CLICK THIS ONE!

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What the hell is wrong with us and Kenyan media?


What the hell!!

First: Malia Obama is 17 years old.

A ridiculous fellow is HIGHLIGHTED for pining over her since 2008. When she was 10 years old. TEN YEARS OLD! This dude gets featured in the newspaper, goes on TV… people are talking about it.


Then this morning, some rotten ass old geezer states that he too is interested.

And the media even goes to his HOMESTEAD!

What is wrong with us?

Why are we not raising hell about this?

Do we not understand pedophilia?

I am seriously bothered by how lax we are to address the underlying issue on this matter and are just kekeing as though it is normal.


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My baking skills are really PRIME right now.

I make really amazing brownies and cupcakes. And I refuse to do the common and mundane.

I make gluten free cupcakes, spiced cupcakes…… and currently looking into low sugar baked goods. Because…. why not?


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There is a certain amount of truth in the statement “Ignorance is bliss” but then again, what people think passes for ignorance is truly a refusal to see the truth. A refusal to see things are THEY ARE as opposed to how YOU WANT THEM TO BE.

I really am not going anywhere with this other than the fact that I want to say that Christianity was FORCED on us by the West (Read: Missionaries). Just because this did not happen during your lifetime does not change the fact that this is true.

I don’t know why we keep ignoring this truth in all our “debates” on what goes on in the world today.

Seriously, read a history book not written by a white man.



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